Our office has gone from bL HQ to bridal HQ recently, with a recent hike in engagements among our coworkers–and we’re not mad at it! As a lot of you may know, planning a wedding is a LOT of work, and sometimes you need some sage advice from the wedding experts. The Knot‘s Executive Editor, Kristen Maxwell Cooper, was sweet enough to let our brides-to-be lob some hard hitting questions at her, and we’re thrilled to share the answers with you!
There are so many articles out there that say things about how much you spend on your wedding and how that correlates with your likelihood of divorce (the less you spend, the more likely your marriage will last), or the amount of people you invite to your wedding determines your likelihood of divorce (the more people you invte, the less likely you are to get divorced). How do you keep from getting overwhelmed with all the contradictory information, and how do you keep from letting all these articles determine the kind of wedding you have?
My advice is to ignore those articles and throw whatever kind of wedding feels right for you and your fiance. It’s about the two of you and your unique love, so it should be a day that speaks to your personal preferences and your unique story. Live in the moment instead of worrying about the unpredictable future.
What is the proper etiquette for the no fuss bride? Are favors required, do I need to specify attire, how many food & beverage options are required?
You’re part of a new crop of brides we’re seeing that have been dubbed “bridechillas” because of their laid back approach to wedding planning. While this a welcome change from bridezillas, I still think it’s nice to give your guests an idea of the dress code for the wedding, even if it’s just simply “casual”. Trust me, if you don’t, you risk having to field tons of emails and phone calls asking this very question. As for the number of food and beverage options, that’s completely up to you. If you want to keep it simple with just beer and wine, go for it!
How do you determine your day-of timeline? I’m not sure how to plot the first dance, or cutting the cake, etc.
If you have a wedding planner, day-of coordinator or a coordinator at your venue, let him or her take a first pass at the timeline. They will know what is done traditionally and may even have some new ideas for shaking things up. If not, this article will certainly help!
How do you figure out your budget? Is it up to your salary?
The first step to figuring out your budget is to discuss with both families to determine who will be paying for what and/or what each family will be contributing, if anything. Once all of that is in a pot, discuss what you and your fiance consider to be the most important aspects of the weddings–is it more important to have everyone you love there? Or have it at an exotic location? Then follow the percentage breakdown in this article. After that, you should know exactly how much you should be spending on your venue, flowers, cake and more!
What is proper etiquette for inviting coworkers?
You shouldn’t feel obligated to invite anyone to your wedding–even your coworkers. If you’re close to a few outside of work, you should feel free to invite them without feeling like you need to invite the entire office–just don’t make a big deal of it. But if you have a small team and are inviting some coworkers (that you aren’t friends with outside of work) and not others, I would rethink it–it’s all or nothing.